How to choose your Nanny or Manny

So recently I have had a few experiences with families unsure about how to find the perfect match when it comes to the person who will help raise their precious little ones.

It's completely understandable - It's hard to trust a stranger! Even with thorough background checks or going through a nanny agency, finding your dream Mary Poppins isn't guaranteed. You want someone you can leave your children with confidently, knowing they're in the best possible hands. So, how do you make sure?

First, think through what you truly need: the hours, the tasks, the intensity, and the flexibility. Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

• Do I need help for the whole day, night, or perhaps only after school care?

• Can I manage the nights with my newborn?

• What other tasks are important for me to get done around the house?

• How many days do I need help?

• What is my budget range?

Once you’ve answered these questions, you’ll have a clearer view of what you need. With this clarity, you'll find plenty of opportunities to choose from. The next step is to think about the specifics.

What kind of personality will suit my family best? Bubbly and fun or someone firm but fair with a touch of fun? Someone who can drive because the children have busy schedules or are you happy for them to take the bus? Are there any specific skills you're looking for, like a second language or baby whispering abilities? Maybe you need an extra hand to keep the house running smoothly?

By considering these details, you'll be well on your way to finding the perfect match for your family!

So here is your checklist for so far:

• I need a: nanny, manny, maternity nurse, teacher, tutor, housekeeper, house manager, PA, etc.
  

• I need help for: this many days/nights and this many hours a week.
  

• I can have this much flexibility on the hours: I can shift my working hours or can offer more hours if the nanny needs it.
  

• Tasks and responsibilities that are important to me: tasks important for me to be done by the child carer, nursery duties, medical support, laundry, school runs, help around the house, teaching my children to read, etc.
  

• Extra responsibilities that are nice but not essential: these extra responsibilities would be good to add but not essential, like walking the dog, teaching an additional language, etc.
  

• The personality that suits our family best: fun, bubbly, loud, quiet, calm, firm, disciplinary, empathetic, patient, easygoing, etc.
  

• Problems I need help with: my kids hate green vegetables, they don't like to sleep, are always upset, etc. Parenthood is hard! There is always a challenge!
  

• Budget for childcare: this is how much I can spare a week/month to pay for childcare.
  

• Extra benefits I can offer: gym membership, private medical insurance, travel coupons, long breaks during the day, etc.
  

• Duration of help needed: this many months/years I need help for.
  

• Skills I want the childcare professional to have: language, music, behaviour management, etc.
  

• Live-in or daily help: can I offer a peaceful live-in arrangement for the nanny to have their time off effectively, do I need 24/7 care, or do daily shifts suits us best?

Now that you know exactly what you need, you're all set to find the perfect match for your family. The easy part is done!

Just like with everything when it comes to children, one size does not fit all! How do you know what a good nanny or manny should have or should know? The checklist above will help you find the best fit for your family, but here are a few important factors to look out for:

Qualifications - What qualifications do they have?

A first aid course and at least a level 3 in childcare or education are essential. Norland nannies are usually highly qualified, but they might lack hands-on experience. Varied experience with continuous personal development can be more valuable. A nanny who keeps their knowledge up-to-date will invest in your children and provide the best care. Remember, guidelines change with new studies. For instance, 30 years ago, babies were placed on their tummies to sleep, but now we know they are safest on their backs in a clear cot. It’s crucial for professionals to stay current with the latest research.

Experience - What experience do they have?

The more experience, the better! Kids come in all shapes and forms, and they grow so quickly. Someone with experience at different developmental stages can seamlessly adapt to your children's changing needs. When it comes to maternity nurses, they help in the first few months with your baby therefore hands-on specific newborn experience is crucial. Although, for long-term childcare, it’s essential to find someone with a broad range of experience who can handle all stages of development. This ensures that as your children grow, your caregiver can provide the appropriate care and support every step of the way. If your child has special needs, you will need someone trained and experienced in the field.

First Aid - What kind of first aid qualification do they have and have they used these skills in the past?

Everyone around children should have first aid training, specifically the 12-hour Paediatric First Aid certificate. Knowing what to do in emergencies is vital, and someone who has effectively used their first aid skills in real situations is even better. They’ll be more likely to stay calm and act quickly in emergencies.

Compatibility- Personality match

You will need someone you get along with and blend in with the family. Look for a matching personality. Ask questions that matter to you. A bubbly, loud nanny might be great, but if your family is quiet and calm, you’ll want someone who matches that vibe. Listen to your kids too—they often know best who they’ll feel comfortable with.

There are many other factors to consider, that I cannot possibly list here! I encourage you to take the time to thoroughly evaluate your family’s needs while remaining open to unexpected opportunities. Sometimes, we don’t know exactly what we’ll need, so it’s essential to be receptive to suggestions. Ask as many questions as you can when it comes to interviews!

Let's say, you have found the one! YAY! - Now how do you keep them?

Childcare professionals are some of the most loving, caring, giving, and patient individuals. They excel at caring for others (as that is what they do best), and it’s crucial to show them appreciation for their dedication. It doesn’t have to be through expensive gifts or large bonuses; a simple thank you at the end of the day or prompt payment at the end of the month will go a long way!

Of course, a fair wage is also important, a wage that reflects all the responsibilities they have. If possible, offer extra benefits, like allowing them to finish early occasionally without cutting their pay or communicating well about your planned holidays so they can plan accordingly. Flexibility should go both ways.

Lastly, being a nanny or manny is a unique job. We often feel like part of the family, yet we must maintain professionalism and clear boundaries. Empathy, kindness, communication, and fairness are key to retaining your nanny for the long term. By creating a supportive and appreciative environment, you can build a strong, lasting relationship with your childcare professional, ensuring they feel valued and motivated to continue providing excellent care for your family.

Good luck in your search and as always, you can contact me any time if you need further help!

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